Let Go, Making Love Last

How do people do it?  They make commitments for life, but only keep them for a few months or years. I don’t see where the wedding vows say until divorce do you part. It’s death do you part, and I haven’t seen
where any people have died during divorce. Although some people probably wouldn’t mind their spouse dying during the process. Why don’t people let go and make love last?

My wife has had the disney movie Enchanted playing in our house over the past few weeks. There is a song in the movie called That’s How You Know, that  I find interesting. I know it’s a movie but the lyrics make some points that could help make love last.

Here are some of those tips.
1. Leave her notes to tell her she is on your mind.
2. Send flowers when the sky is gray.
3. Find a new way to show her everyday.
4. Each day do something to need her.
5. Find Little things to do for her to bless her.

I love these little tips. Yeah they are from a movie, not a professional  marriage counselor who is trained in helping people but, if you look at relationships and the courting process you will realize that these are all things that men usually do before they get married. It’s once a couple is married that these tend to fall off.

The key to keeping your relationship sweet is to keep these things going after you are married. After kids have arrived, after you’ve been married for a few years, and after the initial romance of newly weds is through.

Love is work, relationships are work, it just depends on how willing people are to make their lives together a loving life where the couple continues to care for each other. It’s the little things we do for each other that will make that relationship stay sweet.

When I was single it was all about me. When I got married it became all about us. When kids came along it became us and the kids. There’s plenty to do when you’re taking care of so many people.  So a couple needs to prioritize what is most important. Kids are not first, you didn’t marry them. Your relationship needs to remain first. It’s the little things that you do for each other that will keep your marriage sweet.

Ladies your man needs repect. If he is loving you the way every man should then, your respect is absolutely necessary. If a man is loving a woman, but doesn’t get back that repect, he will soon grow weary of doing his part in the relationship. Respect and love require communication! Without communication it is impossible for a couple to stay sweet on each other.  In some ways I think that there are to many distractions for people to stay sweet on each other. When I was child there were no cell phones, there was no internet, television did not have five or six hundred channels. Maybe it’s time to turn the TV off, shut your cell phone down, and unplug the internet for a night. Now stare into each others eyes and share how much you love and respect each other. 

I noticed that one of the tips on the list is find a new way to show her every day. Guy’s do something totally unexpected and different become unpredictible in your methods of loving her. You will keep her guessing whats next, and bring an excitement to the relationship that will truly help to make love last.

So let go and make your love last. You will find that, it’s worth it.